But it is luck of the draw. It has to do with their character. Somewhere down the road, you will find another girl who will be a much better match for you.
I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. I have finally learned to pray to change my heart, not his. We all know that. He's a big boy and can make up his own mind. Take what you read with a grain of salt. I knew a Mormon girl who got rides from her Mormon friends for casual sex dates with men she met on Tinder. She encourages me to develop my skills and talents, and provides an example in several of those areas.
I also studied his advice for approaching and dating women. They nicely include all the pictures we grew up with on how the book was translated and admit that isn't how it happened. There are a million fish in the sea and it makes no sense to choose one with whom you are not religiously compatible. That settles it for me. Do you want to be married in the temple.
Would she want you to attend church with her. My 16 year old daughter told her Bishop who made that comment, that she thought her dad was great just the way he was. You really don't know how great you have it. If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them. Salaries for doctors are declining, with my boyfriend telling me that some nurses now make more than the lowest paid medical specialty - pediatrics. Full respect and care. There will be struggles in marriage and childrearing whether or not he is a member. He hadn't realized it was the same weekend as my birthday, or even that it was a big birthday - 30. Nothing less will do. This is something that's very important to her, and it's difficult to be married to someone who doesn't share the same values.