Good news: Anal sex is becoming less and less taboo. Anal sex provides a different kind of fullness and, with the right partner, can be really, truly intimate especially if it's a first for both of you. Of course, not every woman is going to be into anal I mean, is any sex act a universal turn-on? But many women are here for it, and some can even have full-on anal orgasms. With the right positions and a few helpful pointers, you could be one of them.
Pop quiz! Lots of women who've been there and done that say it's a welcome addition to their sexual repertoire. But just like you must walk before you can run, you must have some sort of anal foreplay before you go for the full monty of anal sex. Or, you know, you can do butt play and leave it at that forever, because it's your booty and you make the rules. You hopefully already know the basics: ALWAYS use lube, never put something that was in your butt in your mouth or vagina, and butt plugs are your friend. But there's so much more to know about anal play, and so here, several sexperts break down their best anal foreplay tips for both first-timers and experienced butt travelers. Happy butt stuff! Having little details like this worked out ahead of time can give you more freedom to enjoy the experience and not stress about little things.
I was in high school when Sex and the City premiered, and like many women of my generation and the generations that followed, that show taught me a lot about sex. I knew that gay men engaged in it, but I held on to some pretty old-school notions when it came to why straight women would do it. Whoever heard of Mrs. Up-the-Butt might reside. The experience was, for lack of a better word, awful. But on top of the physical discomfort, I also felt ashamed. It was humiliating that this was what he wanted and humiliating that I consented. What did this say about me? What other so-called deviant things would I consent to in the name of love? But then something happened in my early thirties.
The first time a boyfriend asked me to try anal sex was in high school. I was And because I loved him — in the way you can only when love when everything is fantastical and a first — I agreed to try it. Even so, after reading about what to do, we gave it a try. It was too scary. Too much. It hurt. The very idea of someone entering into your backside seems a little gross — right? The first time we went for it, he started by going down on me.