Yes, those of us in the hospital work longer and harder days than most people with 9 to 5s, but we still have off days. That my heavenly father hates my decision to marry my husband. By those standards, I was a failure, my husband wasn't "good enough" - and my daughter had ambitious real goals that required a lot of time and effort. Now he is into his second year, the schedule has improved some and so has his libido: I am married to an intern this is his first year residency, unfortunatley he didn't match so this is only a pre-lim year and now I know in my thoughts we may have to move again, so I get upset when I think why even try and get attached to the community, neighbors, new friends As humans we really need people in our lives especially in a time like this, although we might have to move again and go through the whole match process again there is still hope and there is still a very much needed assist with friends, and family in our lives. Actually, Mormon families are shrinking, just like those outside the Church, but they will always be larger than families outside Mormondom. So there's THAT to look forward to. My husband gives the very best of himself to the hospital and the staff and patients every day. I hate that it's all on his terms. I say, Follow your heart.
I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and her reading the CES letter would be even. And the nonmember spouse may just put pressure on the member spouse to spend more time with them. That's one great thing about the internet and blogging That is exactly how I feel. I had some idea of his life at the time of wedding, but this is tough. Ignore the busy-bodies who want to condemn your significant other. How the Japanese Celebrate New Year. I let people assume what they will. If all the Mormons truly were the pricks we often claim them to be, then Mormonism would be the perfect punishment for them. I say, Follow your heart. If they are, run to the altar, in or out of the temple.
To sum up, they're incapable of loving anyone but themselves and the thought of a marriage counselor freaks them out as this would mean confronting their ultimate excuse of "I'm too busy". Well, sometimes they cant. The thing about General Authorities and General Conference, is that they give general counsel that is meant for the general population. Know there are a lot of Doctors who cheat though. I always feel like I am last. You are too young to deal with this. You can always expand these into group dates by inviting other couples along, which may make her more comfortable in the early stages of your relationship. When you are disappointed that he is called into the hospital, focus on what he is providing for someone in need. But I am really in love with him, and see him as a wonderful man. It is nice to hear that I am not alone, and that we can do it.
Please realize I know how the church works, was extremely active and raised good kids. Be specific every time you ask. The important thing is that you are getting to know one another, not that you are always doing fancy things. You should take your cues from your partner, not from documentaries or this sub, on whether your partner's views and actions are manipulative, brainwashy and damaging.