My daughter thinks it's funny that she's known her SO 4 years - not ready for marriage. RUN like the wind. In my home ward, the non-member son of one of the members of the Bishopbric was able to stand up with the Priesthood and hold his baby girl while they gave her baby blessing. Of course they do. My husband is a doc in the UK so I moved 7, miles for love. We planned the funeral around his work and call schedule. He had no idea what he was getting himself into.
My nonmember husband and I have been married for almost 18 years. But then when we do spend time together I have an absolute blast and everything just goes so well that I end up liking him even more. I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. It is always a nice idea to plan for your date in advance.
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I would say though that racial differences are NOT like religious differences, certainly not those between Mo and Nomo. After enough years of this, you stop trying. She views patriarchy as a quality of God. What would your relationship look like if you were to marry. Leave her so you can both find people that youre more suited for. No walking your daughter down the aisle, no giving your daughter away at the alter, nothing but you standing outside the temple waiting till it's over. As a man who married a non-Mormon woman, my story has a slightly different view point, but it comes down to essentially the same principles. And I learned how freeing that is. We are indeed in two different places.