This is paramount. Go slow. Bond beforehand, make it a more holistic experience. Merge your minds before you do your bodies. Appreciate everything. Stop speaking. Nothing wrong with that! Let go of your body hangups by realizing that nobody is judging you as much as you are judging you. Lay with each other and talk afterwards or beforehand, really. Not about the weather or how great they are in bed, but just about, you know, life stuff.
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Skip navigation! Story from Sex. Quite literally, slow sex is all about slowing down the action with your partner so you can be more present and mindful of sensation, with the goal of an overall more pleasurable experience. Slow sex has its roots in tantra and orgasmic meditation, but a common understanding of the term is really just being more connected to yourself and your partner during sex. Here to tell you all about it are Rena McDaniel , sex therapist and certified sexologist, and Vanessa Marin, sex therapist. Marin thinks of slow sex as an antidote to the overworked, frenzied lives so many of us live. And I think a lot of us approach sex in that same way.
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I often hear these complaints from my clients. Yet, some couples deeply enjoy their lovemaking with each other even in very long-term relationships. What are they doing differently than the complaining couples?
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off-limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Q: My partner and I have been together for years. Sex is important to both of us, and we want to keep growing together in our relationship. How can we make sex more intense?