Skip navigation! Story from Sex. Connie Wang. But the reality of the matter is that a sexy selfie that hits the spot — the kind that you keep in a secret album in your phone, upload to a private Instagram account, let your buds see, and save for really deserving textual exchanges — takes a little bit of finesse. You might have sucked at taking a normal selfie when you got your first front-facing camera, but just like how you finally figured out the angles, poses, and lighting that combine to make you look like the Lifetime Movie version of yourself and not the True Crime version , getting the hang of a sexy selfie demands some practice. And the real secret is to figure out how to take a pic that makes you not even someone else feel some type of way. While we're arguably more in control of and confident about our sexuality than ever, there's still so much we don't know about female arousal.
First, I met with three boudoir photographers to learn the “rules” of boudoir.
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In many areas, I crave consistency. I like when the subway comes on time and how my hair will be reliably perfect on the third day since my last wash. Sometimes the lighting is dim or the camera lens on my phone is dirty. Other times, I can't convince my face and body to do something sexy at the same time. The result is always a weirdly cropped, uncomfortable-looking photo that I'd rather delete than send to anyone else. And that sort of defeats the purpose of a nude selfie—at least, the ones I'm taking. Instead of continuing to suffer from my chronic inability to take a hot nude, I turned to the experts: three New York City-area boudoir photographers who set, light, and shoot sexy photos as their actual jobs. Then I did an IRL boudoir shoot with one of them. Their first lesson: Mood matters, as much as any pose or facial expression.
1. Dress Up
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Updated: February 12, References. Snapping a few sexy photos of yourself can be a lot of fun and help you feel more beautiful and confident in your skin. Before you start taking those photos, do your hair and makeup, pick out some erotic garments, and set the scene for your photography session. Try to relax and have fun while you capture some new images of yourself. Tip: If you don't plan on including your face in your photo, then you don't need to worry about doing your makeup.