This article first appeared in Attitude issue , January Photohraphy: Markus Bidaux. Me making regular cameos in his wank bank was, however, perfectly acceptable. Well, that made two of us. And so, at the tender age of 15, I embarked on what would become a commitment to essentially thinking all men were — to some extent — secretly gay. Over the years, my friends, who are pretty much all female or also openly gay, mocked me because of it. And, in fairness, they were right. What if there really are a multitude of levels between gay and bisexual? Maybe I enjoyed the challenge. And yet, I was not without success.
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This divide stems from a common understanding of human sexuality: The female variety of it is more malleable, more inherently open to experimentation and variety, than the male variety. In doing so, she shows that homosexual contact has been a regular feature of heterosexual life ever since the concepts of homo- and heterosexuality were first created — not just in prisons and frat houses and the military, but in biker gangs and even conservative suburban neighborhoods. And what I argue in the book is that even that research is situated within some long-held beliefs about the fundamental difference between men and women that are not accurate from a feminist perspective. You take readers on sort of a 20 th -century American tour of heterosexual dabbling in homosexual behavior, and there was never a lack of evidence that such dabbling took place. So that was one of the guiding questions through the book: What happens when we pull all of this evidence together? Right, right, right. I talk about that as the logic of homosexual necessity in the book and that comes up a lot, this claim that, well, men have to do this for X or Y reason.
Many men who have sex with men MSM get referred to me by their straight therapists. Holding my books and other coming-out literature in their hands, they explain that their therapists have tried to help them come out. But since they say they are not gay, their therapist has sent them to me to assess their true orientation. I have seen hundreds of heterosexual men come to my office with same-sex behaviors worried that they might be gay. However I have always been able to help these men distinguish between their organic, innate sexual and romantic orientation as well as their sexual preferences. I have always known that straight men can have sex with other men and not be gay. However that concept makes people very anxious. Some think the behavior itself defines a gay orientation. Others—particularly gays and lesbians—understandably worry that it will be used to show that people can go from gay to straight.
Men who have sex with men MSM , also known as males who have sex with males , are male persons who engage in sexual activity with members of the same sex, regardless of how they identify themselves. The term MSM was created in the s by epidemiologists to study the spread of disease among men who have sex with men, regardless of identity. It does not describe any specific sexual activity, and which activities are covered by the term depends on context. First, it was pursued by epidemiologists seeking behavioral categories that would offer better analytical concepts for the study of disease-risk than identity-based categories such as "gay", " bisexual ", or "straight" , because a man who self-identifies as gay or bisexual is not necessarily sexually active with men, and someone who identifies as straight might be sexually active with men. Second, its usage is tied to criticism of sexual identity terms prevalent in social construction literature which typically rejected the use of identity-based concepts across cultural and historical contexts. MSM are not limited to small, self-identified, and visible sub-populations. MSM and gay refer to different things: behaviors and social identities.