But can't he send me a text just once a day or every few days to let me know he's thinking of me. She is now happy with her uber-Mormon boyfriend and I am happily dating other people as well. His whole family joined after he did. If my mother needed her surgeon's attention, I wouldn't want him to be thinking about his wife's lamenting that he's never home, not romantic, etc. I don't really care if she's religious or not, unless she brings it up all the time or tries to convert me.
If your heart longs for children, a family and love- why should you stop yourself holding out for some mystical Mormon man to swoop you off your feet. We can talk about everything, but I don't want him to feel as if he is under the microscope. Toxic is the right word.
That being said, we have built something beautiful and good, have modeled loving responsibility and accountability to our kids, and I am certain I am with the man God chose for me. And you seem like a good person. I guess I was just hoping there was way for it to work. I have feeling you stopped pursuing anyone unlikely to go for you. Sorry if I gave that impression. Mormons are very strict about avoiding sex outside of marriage. If so, then step away from the internet and go look him in the eyes and take his hands and start asking him all the questions you asked me.
Although there are no strict rules as to who should do the asking, the Mormons are very conservative and in general, they expect guys to do the asking. It does not come from common religion or personality or even values; it only comes through mutual self transcendence. I knew a couple in my last ward who got married in their mid 20's. The important thing is doing it together. Heavenly Father will give you guidance if you listen with an open heart and contrite spirit as always. He's a good man. And, as I was writing the reply, above, those thoughts went through my head.