In case you need a reminder that every person and body is wildly different, enjoy the below story, originally published in June , wherein 47 women over the age of 47 weigh in on the state of their sex lives. No topic was off-limits. Read their illuminating responses below. Now, do we have sex a lot??? NO, but I must say when we do, it is still very good. Sometimes I like to put on dirty movies as it helps me during foreplay. I do not want to give up on the effort it takes, because I know many friends have. Love, yes. Hugs, yes.
When I was 11 years old, my mother silently snuck into my bedroom. Under the cover of midnight, she sat cross-legged at the end of my bed and proceeded to give me The Talk, although it was more of a whisper. Instead of focusing on the anatomy of sex — the biological prophecies by which, some say, our bodies were made to meld into one — my mother chose to emphasize pleasure. She spoke about the importance of passion: pursuing it, asking for it and finding it within yourself. Society has a tendency to perpetuate this idea that the older a woman grows, the more she yearns for the beauty of her youth. It was once bewildering to me that my mother could be so candid about sex. But after speaking with Sylvia, Barbara and Michele — all women 70 or older — about their relationships to pleasure, I now realize that some women only grow more comfortable in their sexualities and in their bodies as they age. I was born in Alexandria, Egypt, but I left very early as a stateless political refugee. We had a very hard time getting to the United States because the immigration quota system was in effect there — there were something like 17 Egyptians allowed in annually. We spent several years moving around Europe just trying to make it to the top of that list.
You are more likely to find a drawing. Now I am honouring it, appreciating it, taking care of it. Immersion in a dance and movement practice has finally enabled me to land in my skin. For a society preoccupied with the female body, interest drops off precipitously after I was ready to shed my skin, find myself.
I'm pretty disturbed by the level of dismissiveness seen in many of the comments here. She is in pretty deep and culture is a powerful force. If your relationship is moving forward, or she suggests doing something more expensive, it is not inappropriate for her to help pay as well. Your not alone I married a women ob 20 years ago three kids 19,15,12 Also lost my job as a homebuilder my thoughts are with you. You will join the church. You should not be trying to be exclusive with one person, so go on dates with as many people as you can. Anyway, we've discussed marriage already.