When you ask people what they enjoy about tied up sex, you will get a wide variety of answers and a few awkward jokes. You will find that most binding practitioners are motivated largely by their partners pleasure. To really understand tied up sex, you first have to tunderstand what makes a person want to be bound. I think that in many cases it is related to the contrast with daily life. Your boss may seem to micromanage your every move. Or you are held captive to your mobile phone to respond to pinging text messages. I think another reason people like to tie people up during sex is for fun — pure mischief. You may have felt this before when you unexpectedly encountered a friend sleeping.
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Dear Carole, Why does my girlfriend enjoy being tied up? Sex always involves rope, handcuffs or restraints of some sort, and often uniforms. She is anything but submissive outside the bedroom, but seems unable to achieve orgasm without being restrained in some way. When we have "vanilla" sex she enjoys it, but when tied she always has multiple orgasms. While I'm not complaining at her tastes, I'm not sure I can see the evolutionary benefit … apart from attracting men who are dominant in bed, which, at the risk of doing myself down, seems a dubious sort of goal at best. If it's all the same with you, in the event that you publish this, I'd rather remain anonymous: she reads the Guardian too. Are you dominant in bed? Once an adult is handcuffed and restrained the other party becomes, by default, the dominant one.
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