Please refresh the page and retry. Through a hobby group I've now met someone special and we want to have sex. I'm now worried I might be mistaken about myself. Can you help me explain this to him? I can try and help you explain this to him, although I wonder if it is really worth your time. Besides, there is something far more important I want you to hold on to.
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The hymen is a thin piece of mucosal tissue that surrounds or partially covers the external vaginal opening. It forms part of the vulva , or external genitalia , and is similar in structure to the vagina. Tearing the hymen during the first sexual intercourse usually causes severe pain and, sometimes, some light bleeding. In children, a common appearance of the hymen is crescent -shaped, although many shapes are possible. During puberty , estrogen causes the hymen to change in appearance  and become very elastic. The hymen usually rips or tears during the first time penetrative intercourse , which usually results in strong pain and, sometimes, mild temporary bleeding or spotting. Sources differ on how common bleeding after first intercourse is. Minor injuries to the hymen may heal  without visible signs of previous injury. A torn hymen may be surgically restored in a procedure called hymenorrhaphy.
The belief that it is easier to discern the virgin state of a woman than a man is more fable than fact, argues medical anthropologist Sherria Ayuandini. Unfortunately, it is still widely believed and practised to subjugate women. The Human Rights Watch condemned the test as a form of gender-based violence and called on the military to end the practice immediately, which it says violates the prohibition of inhuman treatment under international human rights law. Many pointed out the injustice of the practice, arguing that it is sexist, painful and traumatising. They also point out that virginity is irrelevant to whether or not an officer would be able to do her police duty. Virginity testing is not unique to Indonesia.