Sorry you had to go through this, but it's for the best if she's about to leave on a mission. That's another 15 for me. Residents work an insane amount of hours. I don't want to give up as I think it is still the stress of the exams that is motivating her response and that given time, we could work things out and have a very special and loving relationship. Of course they do.
But the reason I don't know him well enough is because we don't spend enough time together, or I feel like he's not really "letting me in" to get close to him. There are many great and wonderful people in the church, and the real evil about the church is that it harms those great and wonderful people. It's really cool to be able to connect with someone who shares all of those things with me. In 5 years, one thing has become certain to me. The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life.
Please share your dating experience with a doctor or a medical resident. Mind control is not child's play, and the Mormon church has real people's blood on their hands for the despicable damage they've caused. To those asking about pre-med boyfriends, mcat, first year, med school boyfriends: You never accomplish half what you set out to do, and taking practice exams is the most anxiety provoking experience. Really, I'm interested in this too. But my relationship with him is worth this small sacrifice. And some will do that. The most damning information is in the footnotes of the essays. Maybe watch "Going Clear" with her.
Once she realizes you won't join and she can't get married in the temple, then I suspect everything will be over. I will, and have said before that is is one of the worst decisions to marry a doctor also. Or, I might be in class. It is a decision he has to come to on his own - hopefully all sped up when he looks around at his current dating pool and eating way too much McDonalds.